Why Keeping Secrets Can Be Harmful

It triggers trust issues.

Trust builds relationships. You establish it by unfolding truths. Once it’s broken, rebuilding it can be difficult.

  • Forgive
  • Focus on the present

It affects your communication.

It prevents you from being completely vulnerable with your partner. You now avoid discussing the problems that your relationship encounters. Overwhelmed by the lies, you no longer feel comfortable opening up.

  • Although it’s hard, confront your problems head-on.

It hinders your relationship’s growth.

You thought nothing could ever go wrong until you found out that your partner has been keeping secrets from you. Now you no longer trust them, and all the progress that your relationship has made is all going down the drain.

  • Tell the secretive partner to be transparent, as it is the only way for your relationship to advance further.

It makes you question your worth.

“What’s wrong with me? Am I not dependable?”

  • Create a healthy boundary moving forward so their lapses will not affect your self-perception.

It hurts your relationship’s intimacy.

You can no longer look your partner in the eye. Every time you see them, all you can think of are the other lies you haven’t discovered. It’s hard to bring back the affection that you once shared. Is it still possible to bring it back? Try these simple ways:

  • While it’s not your responsibility to carry the burden of their mistake, it’s still your relationship that is at stake. To bring the attachment back, start by doing the little things — talking to them in a soft manner, being forgiving, and loving.

Avoid Doing Things That Could Threaten Your Relationship

Yes, you can have your own life outside your relationship. You’re not obligated to tell your partner everything.



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