What to Do When You’re Heartbroken and Miserable

How to Heal After a Breakup

1. Get out of the house

As I said, you’re allowed to cry it out. You’re only human after all. But you should give yourself a time limit on how long you’re allowed to wallow. After that, get out of the house.

2. Surround yourself with positivity

Talk to your friends and family. Reconnect with the people who love you and care about you. They can tell you how amazing you are and that whatever happened with you and your ex doesn’t define you as a person.

3. Find a new hobby

Find something new to love. Whether that’s a show, a new hobby, or something else. Do something you’ve never done before. Find something new and interesting in your life that will make you like life again.

4. Say NO to rebounds

We get emotionally vulnerable after the breakups. A little bit of affection from a stranger and we all but cling to them like a lifeline. It’s a form of validation we think we need when in truth, it’s simply a temporary thing.

5. Love yourself

It’s hard to like yourself after experiencing a breakup. That’s emotional trauma no matter how you look at it. You’d start to question your self-worth and then neglect yourself as a result.

Getting Back into Dating

1. Don’t go for dating apps

There is no doubt that dating apps are easy to use, but they are also the most difficult method of getting a date, especially if you aren’t attractive enough. Apps rely too much on how good you look in your profile photo. People rarely click on you if they don’t find you pretty enough.

2. Join a Singles Tour

Single people, rejoice! If you have a preference for foreigners, there are tours made for you. And they are Singles Tours.

3. Try dating sites

Dating sites or matchmaking sites are far different from dating apps. They have real matchmakers, actual people, that help you find your preferred date and also answer your questions.

It’s Not Too Late

There’s no need to rush. It’s never too late to re-enter the dating scene. Always date at your own pace.



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