She’s Most Likely Playing With You

Signs She’s Playing You Like a Fiddle

1. You’re her Plan B

It’s almost like you’re never her first choice for a weekend hangout.

2. She refuses to introduce you to her friends and family (and refuses to meet yours)

Nothing is shadier than a partner who doesn’t want to meet your family and friends. It’s understandable if she’s shy and anxious about wanting to make a good first impression. But if you two have been dating for a while and she still refuses to meet them, it’s suspicious.

3. You’re an alias on her phone

This doesn’t have to count as a red flag. Her nickname for you is probably an inside joke you two have or it’s something she teases you about. Ask her about it but be warned that if she has been lying about being with you, she’s also going to have no problem lying to your face.

4. She doesn’t text you first

A normal partner lets you know they’re thinking about you and messages you first. But if all she does is reply to you and it’s always been you that messages first, then you’re probably the farthest thing from her mind.

5. Hot and cold attitude

She loves you one minute and the next she’s putting distance between you. People who are hot and cold with their partners often don’t know what they want. Their actions, as you may have noticed, reflect that.

Signs She’s Only Pretending to Like You

1. Bored when you’re with her

It’s a tough pill to swallow to know that your partner gets bored when you’re in the picture. Most couples are ecstatic when they’re together. So the fact that she isn’t even excited to see you is proof that she’s fake.

2. Never expressing her love to you

Women are normally very expressive. Some less so than others, but they are still more emotional than men. They always want and need to express their love towards their partners.

3. No interest in your life whatsoever

One of the signs a person is truly in love with someone is when they show interest in their loved one’s life. They will naturally ask questions, follow up with more questions, and maybe input something about their own life to create rapport in the conversation.

4. Your appearance is important to her

Women who are young and pretty (and possibly rich too) will only date men who are just as pretty as them. You can tell with the amount of time she worries about how you two look together. If you don’t look just as perfect as she does when you two go out, she’d fuss.

Don’t Waste Your Efforts

You will only exhaust yourself if you continue to waste all your efforts on someone who won’t appreciate or reciprocate them. Prioritize your mental health and think about your self-worth.



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