Ready to Pop the Question? Here’s How to Do It Right

Melanie Kane
3 min readSep 26, 2022

There’s a lot of pressure that comes with planning a marriage proposal.

At the very least, it must be perfect, special, and memorable. And knowing that every woman dreams of being asked the question in the most romantic way possible adds more pressure to your shoulders.

Still, you should not let your nerves get the best of you. To give you an idea of what your ideal proposals should look like, here are some things you should keep in mind.

Keep it personal

Wedding proposals have long been a big deal, but with social media, it’s almost getting out of hand. Everyone’s been feigning over grand proposals that look like they came straight out of a fairy tale — almost as if the proposal was done to trend and not really for your woman.

While it’s okay to take inspiration, keep things personal. Because contrary to most men’s beliefs, women don’t necessarily want big proposals. They just want it to be sentimental.

Instead of big and random red balloons and flowers, delve more and make references to things that hold significance to her and your relationship.

You can bring her to where you first met or kissed instead of somewhere public, or set up sunflowers because she loves them more than roses, or play the first song you sang to her and not Shania Twain’s “You’re Still The One”. You can also ask her close friends and family what her dream proposal looks like. She may want it private and intimate.

And the moment you propose to her, everything you say must come from your heart. You may stutter and have a hard time expressing them, but at least it won’t feel scripted or a copy of something from the web.

Your proposal might not be picture-perfect and flawless, but it’s genuine.

Keep your ring safe and concealed

First things first, don’t propose empty-handed, aka, ringless. As the time to propose draws nearer, don’t let the ring slip out of your hands, jacket, or pocket. It should be within reach in case you decide to pop the question spontaneously.

And don’t let other people get ahold of your $10,000 ring. While it may seem cute to put the ring in the food or tie it somewhere else, many proposal experts warn against it. As much as possible, you’d like to avoid losing it or getting it stolen.

Lastly, your ring must be insured in case something unfortunate happens.

Talk to her parents

For most women, gaining their parents’ approval means a lot. It will make her real happy if you inform and invite them to witness you kneel down on one knee and ask for her hand.

However, especially in less conservative cultures, parents’ opinions don’t matter a lot. Still, and if you want to start off on the right foot, at least let her parents know about your plan to propose.

Don’t let too many people know

Proposals are, for the most part, once-in-a-lifetime events, so it’s understandable you get overwhelmed and ask too many people to help with the planning. However, be careful not to spill the beans to gossipy people.

The fewer people who know about it, the safer your secret remains, and the more likely your plan works out successfully.

Prepare backup plans

Everything’s ready and perfect until mother nature decides to let it rain the same day you plan to propose outdoors. Or, she’s already at your proposal venue, but you’re still stuck in traffic because of an unforeseen accident.

If you don’t want delays or inconveniences to happen on this big day, better prepare backup plans A to Z.

A proposal itself is very special. If she’s ready to be your wife, she will say yes even with the simplest of setups. What matters most is your genuine intention to keep her for life and make more memorable memories together.



Melanie Kane

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