Dating a Girl with Trust Issues: How to Earn Her 100% Trust

Melanie Kane
3 min readSep 19, 2022

Whether you broke a promise or she’s been cheated on before — earning her full trust takes time and hard work. After all, earning a woman’s trust is like already winning her heart.

Proving your trustworthiness is a long process full of ups and downs. She appears to be over her trust issues one minute, then becomes jealous again the next. It takes a man with loads of patience and determination to brave someone with trust issues.

It’s never easy, but here are six ways that might help you gain your girl’s 100% trust.

1. Be yourself

Show her your true colors. Never lie about being someone you’re not. That would be deceiving.

If you’re worried about some things you did in the past, then be honest with her. A lie hurts twofold if she learns it from someone else. Admit, apologize, and be accountable.

2. Trust her first

You can’t demand trust if you’re incapable of giving it. Confide with her your secrets, fears, and the dreams you wish to achieve. Give her your full confidence when she’s out without you, or simply try not to check out her phone. Show her your trust so she can be the same towards you.

3. Be consistent

Keep your behavior consistent. You can’t be with her for a few days and then disappear the next week without notice. She can’t trust someone who keeps changing his mind or treats her differently when situations change.

And be patient. If she’s been cheated on before, it’s harder for her to trust again. Healing takes time. Don’t rush or pressure her into trusting you. Wait until she’s ready, not until it’s only convenient for you.

4. Keep your promises

Nothing breaks someone’s trust more than unkept promises. If you break your promise once, you may or may not regain her trust. Break her promise twice, and you’ll never see her shadow.

Always keep your word. Show her you’re reliable and deserve her trust. Simply put, don’t make promises you can’t keep.

5. Make your intentions clear

Don’t give her a chance to doubt or question your intentions. Don’t play guessing games. Tell her how you feel, and how you intend to keep earning her trust.

At the very start, be clear about why you’re with her. Are you there to stay? To build a lasting relationship? Or are you only after casual dating? Give her a clear picture so she knows what to expect and what boundaries to set.

6. Keep your distance from other girls

There’s nothing wrong with maintaining friends with the opposite sex. But you should know your boundaries. Going out with female friends may seem harmless, but that’s not how it’ll look to a girl with trust issues. More so when you casually check out other girls.

If you’re determined to gain her 100% trust, then don’t give any reason to hesitate to give you her trust.

Gaining someone’s trust requires more than patience and consistent effort. It requires you to bare your true intentions and put only your true self forward. It’s a gradual process, but one that will be worthwhile once you finally gain her trust.



Melanie Kane

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